10 Health Questions To Ask Before You Say “I Do”
Are you are in a promising relationship? Or did you just get engaged?
Do you know all about your partner’s health status?
Love-struck couples forget or ignore the need to know about each other’s health status and get married.
Health issues are bound to arise in future, whether mild or severe. Having the knowledge on your partner’s health and health choices will go a long way to overcome them.
A time may arise where you may not be able to make medical decisions especially in emergency; you may not be able to talk or are in so much discomfort. Your partner will have to make a decision for you.
Can you trust your partner to make the best medical decision that may decide your survival with confidence?
In this article, we address 10 health questions you need to ask your partner before you say I do.
1. Do you or have you ever treated an STD?
STDs refers to sexually transmitted diseases which are contracted via unprotected sexual intercourse with an infected person such as Syphilis, Gonorrhea, and Herpes.
It can go undetected for years, especially in women, even before you met your current partner hence it is important to ask your partner if he or she has ever had an STD.
If status is not certain, both of you may go for a screening to rule out STDs in your relationship.
Being transparent with your health status builds trust and prevents problems such as
- Untreated STDs may cause infertility. The earlier it is diagnosed, the better the outcome of treatment.
- Saving you the headache of discovering that you contracted STD from your partner which would make you worry if your partner has ever been faithful to you.
2. What is your Blood Group?
There are four common types of blood groups namely A, AB, B and O.
Although, blood groups have no effect on the ability to have an enjoyable marriage, it is profitable to know it in case of emergencies.
It is important to know the one your partner has, as it serves as a potential for donating blood to your partner when the need arises.
Check out the blood group compatibility chart below.
3. What is your Rhesus Factor?
Rhesus is a protein like pigment found on the Red Blood Cells but not every human has it.
If you have a Rhesus, it means your blood group carries a positive sign i.e. AB+, A+, B+ and O+. If you do not have a Rhesus, it means your blood group carries a minus sign i.e. AB-, A-, B-, and O-.
Not having a Rhesus does not mean you are abnormal but if you intend to have children, it is an important factor to consider to prevent a condition called Rhesus Incompatibility.
Knowing your partner’s Rhesus should not be ignored as it would prevent a lot of heartaches from miscarriages and still births. To find out more, click here.
4. What is your genotype?
Genotype is the genetic makeup of a person’s multiple traits. The common genotypes includes AA, AS, AC, SC and SS.
It is passed down from parents to children; hence attention needs to be paid to your partner’s genotype.
You need to be cautious of your partner’s genotype to prevent your children from having a dominant Sickle Cell Disease (SCD) gene of which studies reveal that less than 5% of African children survive the SCD while 95% die before age 10.
Below is a chart describing genotype compatibility.
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5. What are you allergic to?
To be allergic means your body perceives certain things to be threatening to wellbeing and proper functioning hence, they need to be avoided.
Food, drinks and flowers are some of the few things people are allergic to. Reactions could range from mild (sneezing) to severe (unconsciousness).
For example, people are allergic to the opposite sex bodily fluid (sperm and vaginal fluid), if you fall in this category, now would be a good time to discuss it with your partner and not after marriage.
It is very important to know what your partner is allergic to in order to prevent an avoidable health problem that may strain you emotionally, financially and mentally.
6. Have you ever been hospitalized?
From surgery to medical conditions, the reasons for hospitalization may differ.
Telling your partner about it educates him/her about your health, circumstances that led to staying in the hospital, treatment options and length of stay.
Perhaps, the condition may come up in the future, you will be able to provide the health provider that is been consulted with important info that may help hasten your partner’s recovery.
7. Is there any peculiar illness in your family?
You may find it shocking but it is necessary to ask your future wife/husband.
Conditions like heart problems, cancer and diabetes are hereditary. Knowing which is peculiar to your partner’s family serves as a guide in taking steps that will reduce his/her risk to developing these conditions.
Your partner’s relatives may have a peculiar medical conditions but it does not mean he/she will eventually inherit the disease.
Also, having no medical history of a disease does not mean your partner will not have it.
Getting an answer to the question will help you guide your partner into adopting lifestyle changes that lowers the chances of getting the disease.
8. Have you ever been pregnant or had a child before?
If you and your partner intend to have children in the future, it is important to ask this question as it may come up in medical visits.
9. How many kids do you want to have?
This is not a question to shy away from as your partner may not want kids at all.
Other aspects to consider include:
Choice of delivery: Will your partner support an elective caesarean section or when the need arises, would he/she insist on opting for labour even when the doctor/midwife suggests otherwise? Will your partner rather opt for a religious setting to conduct deliverance sessions when labour is not progressing because it is not in his/her family lineage to consent to CS?
Family planning/Child Spacing: Does your partner support use of contraceptives? How many years should be spaced between childbirths? What does your partner think about permanent methods of family planning such as tubal ligation/vasectomy?
Choice of child’s sex: Is your partner crazy about desiring male or female babies? Have you ever discussed the possibility of not having desired child sex?
Financial Planning: Does your partner have health insurance? Does he/she believe in health insurance?
10. How do you cope with stress?
This goes a long way in checking on your partner’s mental health.
Some people prefer resorting to alcohol, some choose to smoke cigarettes/hemp while some prefer to be left alone for a while.
Getting an answer to this question prepares you on how to manage situations when you observe your partner to be stressed out.
These questions from 1-10 ought to be addressed as your partner may not be able to make decisions by themselves when they are in distress.
It also helps you consider if you can continue the relationship or end it!
The possibility of getting married can be silenced early in the relationship, not when your wedding is a few days away. So start asking.
Also, if you have additional questions you feel needs to be sorted before marriage, please use the comment section.
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